what a load of…

as if dating isn’t hard enough, online dating really sucks.  You go into it knowing this is a beauty pageant.  you don’t really seek out the strangest looking person and think– oooh, that’s the one for me.  you really hope to meet some real person with whom you can have a real conversation.

what I hate is that the online site has just made me feel like an even bigger piece of meat.  this is a copy of an actual email I recently received (click to make it much bigger so you can actually read it):

I’m sure some geek will tell me this is generated by some algorithm and that they really are NOT sending me a pack of poor, ugly losers until I have proven my online worth.  REALLY?!  

It’s a good thing I have a healthy self-esteem.  Otherwise this may have really hurt my feelings.  I have a co-worker who every day (and I am not exaggerating in the slightest) has to tell me someone told her she was pretty.  Now I have a computer telling me I’m pretty (well, HOT to be exact) so should I run off and brag about that? (FYI- this was rhetorical just in case you were thinking you should answer this)

But what I do want to know is how is a nice jewish girl supposed to meet someone when even the dating deck is stacked?  I really just want to meet some nice fella the old-fashioned way- reaching for the same bunch of asparagus at New Seasons.  I’m holding out hope that this is a possibility; that not all the good ones are skulking around the world-wide whatever.

Published by Lula Harp

I'm a mad scientist trying to find my tools.

7 thoughts on “what a load of…

  1. Yikes, is OkCupid really still doing the “attractive top half” email thing? So much controversy when it started ~ a year ago, figured that would get nipped in the bud

    The good news is they’re the only site using this ridiculous pairing strategy (or, maybe just the only ones foolish enough to admit it), the bad news is that apparently it’s still a virtual mess out on other sites either way. Ever tried JDate? They seem to have a slightly less dreadful reputation than most…


    1. I have to say if they are using some ridiculous formula for showing me the good looking people, then they really need to work a little harder. I think of online dating as a social experiment and confirmation that I have one of the best senses of humor out there! Thanks!!


  2. Oh Lula, so many of my friends are in the same boat. Just want to find a “normal” guy to go on a date with. No one I know has used that site, thank goodness…jeez! Hang in there! Grrr, Margie


  3. Everyone knows you’re hot.

    That doesn’t change the fact that you have completely skirted sharing any internet date stories.

    Let the rest of us e-daters know we aren’t alone.

    C’mon. Spill it. Pretty please?


    1. oh, shucks (she blushes). I’ve only had a few dates, so there is no real trash to share. I am quite particular on who I’ll actually meet out in the real world. if there were any good dirt, be sure I’d be shouting from the rooftops!


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