left of center

I know I’ve been AWOL lately. I don’t have any good recipes to share. No cocktails, no new restaurants, no exotic vacation stories. I just have one story. I got hit by a car.

I dislocated and fractured my right shoulder when I was hit by a car while walking across the street. Other than this one (gargantuan) injury I didn’t have another bruise on me. I am beyond grateful that this wasn’t worse.  My right arm has been in a sling for over a month now, the bruises have faded a little, and I have officially hit the point where I’m over this. But I’m fairly certain I’ve got a long way to go before this is over.  Ginger kitty has been taking very good care of my lap.  Coe drew the short straw since it’s my frisbee throwing arm that’s out of commission, but she’s trying to be understanding.

We regularly encounter things in our day-to-day lives that test us on so many levels. This month’s test has been how to function with one hand. I had no idea how inhospitable the world was to lefties until that’s all I have to use.  A few of things that are a little challenging to me these days are washing my face, putting in contact lenses, spreading butter on toast, brushing my teeth, putting on deodorant, operating a computer mouse, opening a wine bottle, using my camera, putting on a belt, swiping my debit card… I think you get the picture. I’m up the proverbial creek with the wrong paddle.

My handwriting currently looks like that of a third-grader. Please don’t ask me to sign anything or even write anything very quickly. I can’t even type very quickly. Siri and I are now BFFs 😉 , actually Siri wrote this blog post for me.

I have worked so hard all my life to be independent and self-sufficient. This accident has chucked all of that out the window. Though I’m really proud of how proficient I have become with one hand. Some things have taken a little extra creativity and everything I do takes 2 to 3 times longer than it normally would. I’ve never been very good at asking for help but this has absolutely changed that. There are just some things you cannot do with one hand.  My girlfriends have gone well above and beyond the call of duty!

I really miss cooking. Y’all know how much I cook and bake. I don’t usually eat much processed food but not being able to cook has meant a lot more frozen meals. It took me several weeks to figure out how to cut a sandwich with only one hand. I’m not sure I will ever master chopsticks as a lefty.

I’m trying to stay as positive as possible and recognize the good things.  Though, some days this is easier said than done.  I’ve kind of come up with a little mantra… I am resourceful, I am resilient, and I am grateful.

Published by Lula Harp

I'm a mad scientist trying to find my tools.

8 thoughts on “left of center

  1. Aw man sweets, I know what you are saying. I broke my right wrist several winters ago and had to use my left, non-dominate hand. Sucks big time, but you are so right that you focus not he positive. It could have been sooooo much worse. Well, know you are missed here. I trust you got the email I sent you after you told me what happened. Has the crossing guard showed up yet? Pity the poor guy if he hasn’t once I get my hands on him!!!! Hang in there Lula!!!


  2. I am so glad you are able to tell this story to us! It could have been so much worse. I am especially glad for you that you are able to work.

    I remember how impatient I became after breaking my wrist. I really had a hard time because I expected to get better much faster than I really could. My physical therapist told me to adjust my expectations and think in terms of months, not weeks, for full recuperation. I despaired of ever being able to use my left hand to do the simple tasks, like washing my hair or my behind. It took months of exercise before I could use my hand and wrist without being uncomfortable. But, I did get to that point and so will you. You will probably heal faster than I did because you are in better physical shape than I was to start.


    1. I had JUST gotten my hair cut and was walking for coffee when the accident happened. I called my hairdresser a week later and said I need another haircut- one that requires no effort cuz all I can do is brush it!


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